Do Highly Intellectual and Intuitive People Really Fail To Be Happy and Social?

I acknowledge that it is difficult to publically present one’s thoughts and ideas especially to Highly Intelligent and Intuitive People (HIIP).

By the way, it is cool to be HIIP! ; )

I have read several articles lately that talk about why people highly intelligent and intuitive people are not happy and that they struggle socially.

Do highly intelligent and intuitive people actually fail at being happy and social?

I do not think that they do fail to be happy or social.  People define happiness in different ways.  It may seem like a failure if they judge themselves by the standards set as socially normal.  Many highly intelligent and intuitive people do not fail at finding answers or fitting into social settings.  They simply take more time to process the received information and energies within their environment.

Unless they are completely sheltered or allowed to or are forced to avoid all social settings, many are able to see the bigger picture of all that is happening around them and struggle with speaking up or agreeing with the way others react to things as they play out around them.  It does not take long to figure out that most people do not care to think more than they are told to think.  It has to be okay for people to remain in a state of ignorant bliss.  Deep thinking just is not for everyone.

Many Doctors do not even ask deep questions anymore.  They only treat patients based on information from a checklist of symptoms that we fill out while waiting in the lobby.  They use these sheets to make sure that we are even in the right place before they even bother to ask questions.

People find enjoyment in filling out little quizzes on social media that they hope will tell them things about themselves that they do not really think about on a regular basis.  I do it too.  Many people believe this information is fact because a computer figured it out.  Society enjoys fictional family settings and artificial news. People like to feel charged by a cause even if it is not even a real cause.

Deep thinkers can and do thrive in social settings and find happiness.  However, they often have a different way of going about figuring things out as they go. HIPP will generally take in their environment before mixing into social settings.  Even as children, if they are in a room people, they quickly begin to observe the little conscious and unconscious cliques that people establish when they are in a crowd.  In the beginning, people generally migrate to the people that we are the most comfortable around and wander toward others as opportunities open.

Thinkers generally take in their environment first because they do not really feel the same type of connections to groups of people.  That does not mean that they do not want to or are not capable of melding into groups, it is just not comfortable for them.

Unless they are completely sheltered or allowed to or are forced to avoid all social settings, many are able to see the bigger picture of all that is happening around them and struggle with speaking up or agreeing with the way others react to things as they play out around them.  For example, the deep thinker will generally take in their environment before mixing into social settings.  Even as children, if they are in a room full of people they quickly begin to observe the little conscious and unconscious cliques that people establish when they are in a crowd.  In the beginning, people generally migrate to the people that we are the most comfortable around and wander toward others as opportunities open.  Deep thinkers generally take in their environment first because they do not really feel the same type of connections to groups of people.  That does not mean that they do not want to or are able to meld into groups, it is just not comfortable for them.

Those that are HIIP are consciously aware that gossiping, criticizing and mocking people, whether they are present in the group or not, in general is wrong and hurtful. HIIP have a hard time blending into those groups.  Most people expect that once someone enters into their circle he or she is going to blend into the group.  When someone does not, he or she can quickly become the focus of the group.  HIIP know this because they have observed it directly or indirectly happening to themselves. Many simply choose to withdraw from the possibility of being exposed to learned situations.

Many HIIP choose solitude. It is simply easier.  That does not mean that they do not desire the companionship of others ever.  They just prefer to snuggle in with their pet than deal with the pettiness that seems to make so many people happy.

The concept of combining intelligence and psychological tests is problematic to say the least.  People that do not fall into the range of intelligent also have psychological disorders, i.e. social anxiety, bipolar, depression, etc.  Some people that cannot read or write can accomplish feats that intelligent people would not even consider possible.  Respectively, people that test high IQs have wonderful personalities and have learned how to survive in a world that says fit in or leave.  Others think so much that they are virtually frozen in their thoughts.  Many just live along beside everyone else and do not show their intelligence.  The desire to fit into society and the seeking of answers as to why one does not feel the connection the way they see others connecting to it is likely the problem here regardless of IQ.  Everyone at some point chooses to follow the leader or to step out of line and find new ways to cope with life in general.  Most people choose to follow the leader.  Those that step out of line are still a necessary part of society.

I find that the standard IQ, Psychological or Intuitive tests are not necessarily an effective way to analyze highly intelligent and intuitive people.  I do understand that they are done to set a basic standard to gauge people against.  It is to some scientifically necessary to read and analyze statistics to make sense of things.

Many walk into the test environment with test anxiety.  The fear of not measuring up almost immediately begins the process of over thinking the questions and the answers.  The pressures of being forced to answer the questions based solely on a set number of options is already difficult for HIIP because answering truthfully is often very important to the highly in tuned.  Most answers for them would fit into none of the above or all of the above categories.  A solid answer for why these two would be given could be spelled out at length by the one being tested.  They are after all highly intelligent and intuitive by nature.   Many highly intuitive people are left out of the high IQ or Intuitive category because of the limitations of the methods used.  By simply allowing, for example, only three options as an answer, you are essentially pigeon holing the results to fit the questions being asked by the one that designed the test.  Most things in life are debatable if enough thought is put into it.  Heck in a few days or hours I could choose to dismiss all that I have written here as rubbish.

It is hard for HIIP to put their thoughts out there knowing that anyone could dismiss it at any moment.  If a topic is open for discussion at all the ones posting it are themselves reflecting on it while they are writing it.

It is good for highly intelligent and intuitive people to consider that someone has to see that there is more going on in the universe than what is put in front of us.  After all, look at how far we have come.  It is the work of HIIP that came up with a list of social norms, expectations, rules etc.  They are the ones that thought of IQ testing and built the computers that allow for all of this open communication to happen.  If I were sitting in a room full of people melding then I would not have stumbled onto the articles that brought out enough passion in me to offer a different perspective.  I do not see HIIP as unhappy, social failures.  They just see that there is more going on and that the answers and solutions are just not easy no matter how hard they keep trying to find them.