Hello, I am Abigail Engel, I am a Certified Thanatologist through Hood College in Fredrick, MD. I also have a BA in English and a minor in Studio Arts from McDaniel College in Westminster, MD. I would love to talk to you about your experiences with grief. We can share our feeling, thoughts, and remembrances through painting, words, photographs, etc. I graduated with honors in writing/literary studies, and will be willing to edit any of the work that you feel needs the attention of another set of eyes to help make your work stronger.
Grief is caused by the loss of many things. It is not limited to death. Some people just need to express their loss in some way. I invite viewer to send their expressions of grief so that we can share them with others.
In doing this, the bereaved will grow within his or her grief experience as it can never be left behind and/or forgotten. One learns how to balance it within the rest of her or his life. There will be times when we revisit our losses; however, eventually you will find that you don’t feel tears falling on your cheeks when you think of your loved one. And, as you revisit old memories, you will feel some of the anger that you have felt over the death of a partner, friend or pet will begin to slip into a smile that is evidence that a you have begun to heal.
A time will come when the bereaved will begin to feel guilt that he or she has forgotten to put fresh flowers on the grave. For me, I eventually felt guilt when I realized that the birthday of the deceased just went by and I did not stop and cry that my Grace was not there to celebrate it with me. The guilt of letting go of grief will have to be faced, and amazingly each step has brought you to a deeper understanding of who you are while reflecting on who you were before the loss.
Over time you begin to understand that you have progressed. There will be new realizations that your sense of loss really is getting easier and that your grief experience continues to become easier until, finally, you are able to hold the loved one in your heart and know that your life is finally on track again. When this happens you should feel pride that you have become a survivor of one of life’s hardest lessons, and you will begin to consider allowing new loved ones into your heart, not as a replacement, but as a new beginning.